When I Set Boundaries My Spouse Does This (What Should I Do?)

So you’ve set a boundary, and it didn’t go the way you’d hoped it would. You wanted your boundary to be respected. Here are three ways someone might respond to a boundary that you set.

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A Story of Emotional Abuse

Here’s what it feels like to be in an emotionally abusive relationship. This story is haunting but very real. If people don’t understand what your relationship is like, this might bring it to light.

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The 4 Pillars of Biblical Womanhood

There are 4 pillars of Biblical manhood, why not 4 pillars of Biblical womanhood? Based on the areas that women tend to be weakest in, these 4 pillars inspire women to pursue the desire of God for their lives.

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My Spouse Doesn't Want Me To Hold Him Accountable (Should I Stop Trying?)

Does you have someone in your life who has a problem with being held accountable? They don’t want to hear it. They get offended or angry. They tell you to mind your own business. And yet there are things they do that they shouldn’t do. How do you get them to see what they’re doing?

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When Helping Isn't Helping (Fighting for Someone Who Won't Fight for Themselves)

You just know you can help people - even if they don’t even realize they need help. You’re a problem-solver, and you know what people need. But what if your help isn’t helping? What if it makes things worse?

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Help, My Spouse Is Angry (And So Am I)

The Bible says you shouldn’t let the sun go down while you’re still angry, but what if you feel like you have a right to be angry? There are two forms of anger - and how you handle each is different.

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What Should I Do? (What To Do When You Want To Do The Right Thing)

Is what you should do always the right thing to do? In a culture where there is a lot of pressure to do what others think we should do, it’s hard to know. This article brings clarity about the distinction between what you should do and what it means to act rightly, especially as it pertains to marriage.

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Do I Have to Have Sex With My Husband?

It feels fake, forced, or unemotional. You feel like an object used to meet your husband’s desires. Do you have to have sex with your husband? What does the Bible say about the sexual relationship between a husband and wife?

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Why The Boundaries Approach? (And Not the More Love Approach?)

Why take a boundaries and consequences approach to helping marriages instead of a love and kindness approach? Because it works! Here’s how the right approach can save you years of misery and unsuccessful attempts to have a good marriage.

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Divorcing a Narcissist

Divorcing a narcissist? You need a strategy so you don’t lose everything in court. Here’s a good place to start.

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Is Your Relationship Making You Depressed? (The Link Between Codependency and Depression)

Feeling depressed? You might not have considered that THIS is what could be wrong.

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How Did I Just Describe Your Relationship? (What It's Like to Live With a Narcissist)

If this describes your relationship, I want to give you a reality check: you are right about the way he is. And here’s what to do about it.

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Oppression and Victim Mentality (Who's REALLY The Victim?)

What should you do to help those who feel oppressed and treated unfairly? This article brings clarity and a perspective you might not expect.

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Justice (And How It Brings Peace)

It’s the chant of the protestors: No justice, no peace. Know justice, know peace. Here’s how to find justice and peace in your life and in your marriage.

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Bad Husband, Good Father? (Helping your child when your marriage is difficult)

If you think it’s possible for a bad husband to be a good father, here are some things to consider - and ways to help your children when your marriage is challenging (or ending).

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Help! He's Alienating Me From My Children!

The feeling of panic, desperation, and fear that comes when your children are being turned against you is very real. Here are 7 ways to protect yourself and your children from parental alienation.

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Is It My Fault That He's Angry? (My Counselor Said I'm Enabling Him)

Wondering if your spouse’s anger is your fault? If you work at keeping your spouse happy so he doesn’t get angry, it’s important to know the distinction between enabling and causing his anger - and how to stop.

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His Indifference is Destroying Our Relationship (Or is it me?)

If your husband is indifferent and doesn’t seem to care about your concerns, what can you do about it? Here are 3 ways you can spark change.

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How to Handle Someone’s Behavior (and Get Them to Change)

When you’ve tried everything to deal with someone’s mean, rude, angry, or uncaring behavior, you might wonder what else you could do to handle their behavior. There is one thing you might not have thought of. And it could change everything.