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5 Steps To Reconciliation

A common scenario in relationships is that, after a conflict or offense, one person wants to just move on as though nothing happened while the other feels there’s been no resolution. Is forgiveness enough? Is more required for repair and reconciliation? What would that even look like? These are the 5 steps to reconciliation.

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Being Complacent is Being Complicit With Sin

Do you find yourself exasperated by your spouse’s words or behavior? Does your child’s behavior frustrate you? Do you have a sibling or friend who always seems to need help? Are you still trying to earn the respect or love of a parent? Discover what to do when someone's sin affects you - and what happens if you don’t do enough.

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The Problem With Attachment Therapy

I’m stepping on some big toes here, but hear me out. Attachment-based Therapy has a major flaw. Whether you have anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, or disorganized attachment, you’re not going to get to secure attachment without this one key factor.

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Male Leadership (Aligning The Head of the Family With The Rest Of The Body)

There is a lot of pressure in marriages on men to be the leader and on women to be submissive to their husband’s authority. Both wives and husbands can struggle with what this really should look like and it can lead to pointing fingers toward who isn’t doing their job well enough. Let’s take the pressure off and help everyone live up to the way God designed them.

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How God Used Narcissists In The Bible (And Will Your Marriage To a Narcissist Last?)

Have you wondered how your marriage to someone with narcissistic traits is going to work out? What did God do with narcissists in the Bible? Find out how God uses the difficult people in our lives to show us how rich his love for us is.

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Honoring Parents When They Don't Deserve It

The Bible says “honor your father and mother” - but what if they aren’t honorable? What if they don’t deserve it? Is there an exception to that command? And, if not, how do you honor someone who isn’t honorable? And how do you teach your children to do the same?


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Parenting Teens (You’ll Incite Rebellion If You Do This)

A rebellious child and a strenuous marriage can both be linked to the same underlying problem. Get an understanding of what’s at the root of the problem and discover how boundaries and healthy relationships affect the success of your parenting and your marriage.


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How to Deal with a Narcissist (You’re Doing It Wrong)

So the narcissist in your life has you spinning and you need some tips on how to deal with a narcissist. No matter what you say you can’t get through to him. You can’t reason with him. You can’t get him to understand your perspective. And it’s upsetting. You’ve been trying to deal with the narcissist in all the wrong ways (obviously). Here is the best way to deal with a narcissist.


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Why The Boundaries Approach? (And Not the More Love Approach?)

Why take a boundaries and consequences approach to helping marriages instead of a love and kindness approach? Because it works! Here’s how the right approach can save you years of misery and unsuccessful attempts to have a good marriage.

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