Frustration and resentment can build when you’re married to someone who doesn’t seem to see you or know you or care about you. So how can you get through to them and feel seen, known, and cared for? Let’s discover what your options are.

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Forcing God’s Plan and Creating an Ishmael

Remember what happened when Abraham and Sarah tried to make God's plan happen before God's timing? They had a son named Ishmael who turned out to be the enemy of God's plan and who continues to work against all that God has planned. In what ways are you creating an Ishmael in your marriage?

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Should You Pursue Your Spouse The Way God Pursues You?

God's goodness is running after me. It's the line in a song, but is it true that God is chasing us down, pursuing you with his love? If God does it for you, then should you pursue your spouse the way God chases after you? Let's dig into Scripture to find out.

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Marriage: Covenant Or Contract? (And Why It Doesn't Matter)

Marriage is a covenant, not a contract. You hear that a lot. But what does that really mean? And is the accepted definition of the word covenant accurate? And does it matter? Let’s go to Scripture to find out.

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Being Complacent is Being Complicit With Sin

Do you find yourself exasperated by your spouse’s words or behavior? Does your child’s behavior frustrate you? Do you have a sibling or friend who always seems to need help? Are you still trying to earn the respect or love of a parent? Discover what to do when someone's sin affects you - and what happens if you don’t do enough.

The Problem With Attachment Therapy

I’m stepping on some big toes here, but hear me out. Attachment-based Therapy has a major flaw. Whether you have anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, or disorganized attachment, you’re not going to get to secure attachment without this one key factor.

Biblical Reasons For Divorce

What are the Biblical grounds for divorce? Many people who ask this question deeply desire to do God’s will. The answer you get will usually consist of “adultery, abandonment, or abuse” (or some variation of those). But let’s consider how Jesus answers that question.

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8 Tips For Dealing With Unmet Expectations

One of the most frustrating things about a relationship is unmet expectations - when you expect your spouse to behave a certain way, and he/she doesn’t do what you expect. Here are 8 tips for how to deal with unmet expectations.

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Marriage God's Way

What does it mean to do marriage God’s way? God is patient, gracious, kind, merciful, forgiving, loving, and compassionate, but there is so much more to being transformed into the image of Christ in your marriage than those “feel good” characteristics.

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5 Signs That Your Relationship Is In Bigger Trouble Than You Thought

There are some obvious signs that a relationship is in trouble: A spouse having an affair, physical abuse, alcohol or drug addiction, or pornography use - but what if none of those are present and there’s still a sense that you’re stuck? See if you’re experiencing any of these 5 signs that your relationship is in bigger trouble than you thought.

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The Best Gift Your Spouse Can Give You

Have you ever approached a holiday, occasion, or celebratory day and thought “All I want is for this day to feel special and not end with someone being upset”? Sometimes the best gift you can get from your spouse on a special occasion is something that isn’t tangible. Here are some ideas to help you get what you really want.

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When The Love Languages Fail (And Love And Respect Isn't Helping)

Books like the 5 Love Languages, Love and Respect, For Women Only, and His Needs Her Needs aren’t for everybody. If you’re been hoping that a relationship book will make things better and it hasn’t, here’s why - and what to do about it.

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Will God Ever Change My Spouse? (I've Been Praying For So Long)

Have you prayed for your marriage? Have you asked God to make your husband the man you know he should be? I’m sure you have. If you’re wondering when God will respond to your prayers, here’s when . . .

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Are You Suffering For Doing Good? (Or Are You Suffering For Tolerating Wrong?)

It’s really hard to feel verbally and emotionally beaten down every day and still count it all joy no matter how you are treated. The Bible says that it’s commendable to suffer for doing good, but it’s really hard to endure. So let’s look at what it really means to suffer for doing good.

A Time For Everything (Encouragement For Where You Are)

Find encouragement through these difficult times with this beautiful, heartfelt devotion to God based on Ecclesiastes chapter 3.

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Parenting Teens (You’ll Incite Rebellion If You Do This)

A rebellious child and a strenuous marriage can both be linked to the same underlying problem. Get an understanding of what’s at the root of the problem and discover how boundaries and healthy relationships affect the success of your parenting and your marriage.

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Do I Have to Have Sex With My Husband?

It feels fake, forced, or unemotional. You feel like an object used to meet your husband’s desires. Do you have to have sex with your husband? What does the Bible say about the sexual relationship between a husband and wife?

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Why The Boundaries Approach? (And Not the More Love Approach?)

Why take a boundaries and consequences approach to helping marriages instead of a love and kindness approach? Because it works! Here’s how the right approach can save you years of misery and unsuccessful attempts to have a good marriage.