I’m Abigail Wincek, and I founded Changing Us after personally experiencing how difficult it is to get Biblical guidance for very challenging relationships. Many times when Christians seek help for their relationships, well-meaning pastors, counselors, and mentors encourage couples to simply keep trying harder, forgive each other, communicate better, schedule date nights, pray more, and other such tips - even if you’ve already been doing all that and nothing is improving.
They don’t acknowledge that sometimes there are character issues that get in the way of people having a healthy relationship. Selfishness, anger, indifference, resistance to feedback, legalism, and so much more can be a barrier to the success of even the most well-intentioned marriage advice. And, for these relationships to improve, those character issues have to get addressed. But many pastors, counselors, and mentors simply don’t know how to recognize them or know how to address them.
That’s where I come in. From my own journey and from over 14 years of experience as a counselor, I am able to readily identify character issues and what is needed to address them so that you can have a healthy relationship.
If you’re tired of doing things to improve your relationship that don’t create permanent changes, my passion is to equip you to be a discerning catalyst for change in your relationship in order to end the tension and conflict and “do what leads to peace and to mutual edification” (Romans 14: 19)
Through my private coaching practice I provide guidance for people navigating challenging relationships
As a Certified Trauma Professional, I facilitate healing from relational hurts and trauma
I help people find relief from anxiety, depression, and abuse as a Certified Mental Health Coach through the American Association of Christian Counselors
As a Clinical Substance Abuse Counselor, I show people how to heal their past, be confident in their present, and have hope for their future
I’m also a blogger, speaker, and book contributor
I’ve authored workbooks for relationship issues, alcohol/drug recovery, and mental health
Endorsed by divorce attorneys, I provide guidance for people going through a high-conflict divorce
Have you tried to set boundaries with your spouse and, rather than getting cooperation or change, you get apathy or resistance? If your boundaries aren’t working, here’s why - and what to do about it.