When life doesn’t go as planned, it’s easy to beat ourselves up for what went wrong. Why did that happen? Why me? And so many other questions that sound like we think that we (or someone) should have had some control over it. Figure out how to get those questions answered. It’s a key to healing.

Everyone has wounds that draw us toward other people whose wounds reveal ours. But how can we recognize the wounds? And how can we heal them? Here’s a step by step guide.